Why is it so hard to forgive?

Assalamualaikum and Hello.

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Have u been hurt by another person? Our pride or self-esteem is injured, isn't it? And it was really hurt when we'd been hurt by a person we've trusted the most.

We lose trust, we've carried anger, and for a long time, we wanted to hurt them back.

Some said, forgiving is easy. As long as you open up your heart and mind, that will do.

Oh man, only if you know how hurt the feeling that had been lied, betrayed, then you won't ever say those things easy ever again.

But, Mahatma Ghandi says, 'The weak can never forgive, forgiveness is the attribute of the strong'.

It's a hard thing to do - to completely let go of something painful and forgive the person who may not have realized what they did. And the most painful thing is, you have been hurt twice or more. That's what make your heart hard as a steel.

Memaafkan memang sangat sukar. Sangat sukar bagi hati-hati yang sukar memahami dan mengerti. Apatah lagi pada hati yang sangat tinggi ego dan dalam lukanya. Hati yang begitu degil. Tanya la pada sesiapa, hati mana yang tidak terluka.

Allah SWT berfirman yang bermaksud: “Dan orang yang menahan amarahnya dan memaafkan orang lain, Allah menyintai orang yang berbuat kebajikan.” (Surah Ali-Imran ayat 132).

Seremuk manapun hati dilukai, dikhianati, pilihlah untuk memaafi. Kerana DIA lebih mengetahui. Memaafkan mereka yang pernah menyakiti hati kita, sedangkan kita mampu membalas, Allah akan memberi lebih dari apa yang pernah kita kehilangan. Hikmah selalu ada. Karma tidak akan sekali-kali hilang. What you do is what you get back. Jangan risau, kalau bukan sekarang, dan bukan dengan cara yang sama mereka akan dilukai kembali, hanya Dia yang tahu apa cara terbaik untuk mereka merasainya. Leave everything to Allah. HE always knows better.

"As for me, to whom it may concern, forgiving you was the harder thing I've ever made, but if I still insist to stay with this reluctance, I'll be the one who will suffer for a long time while not knowing when will it end. I want to be happy. Life goes on. I hope, I've been also forgiven if I ever made ​​a mistake.

Boleh cakap begini kepada sesiapa yang berkenaan.

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